Have you ever wondered what the difference is between moving on and letting go?
Surely we may have heard these ideas more than you can possibly think of. You may have heard your self saying this to a friend with whom you empathize. Or you might have heard a few good friends say this to you when you've had the difficult time in your life when a relationship has ended. Time and again, these two come hand in hand. But do you actually know how to differentiate one from the eother?
I want to share my piece on this matter. I myself got so confused how to state my piece. I might be wrong but I can always take suggestions.
Moving on for me is life after the relationship. It is like putting old stuff in a box. Stuff that you know won't be necessary for your day to day existence. Putting things that won't do no good anymore but has to be kept either for future use or if you may have to share these things to anyone. This box is sealed and kept in the stock room.
It is the acceptance that the relationship is good but not good enough to last. It is the understanding that the person's purpose in your life is to teach you a lesson. That once the lesson has been taught, the person has to leave since he or she has already served his or her purpose(S). It is to fully embrace the fact that a door has closed and is no longer going to be opened anymore.
Letting go on the other hand is partly the same as the first example that I have cited; putting things in a place but this time, it is not placed somewhere that can't be seen. You have set aside these stuff but is still within your reach.
It is the understanding that the other person is not a good match for you but still at the back of your mind you cannot believe that this person is not the perfect one for you. It can be the releasing of emotions and memories in the ocean wide but a river is still dwelling from within. From time to time, this river flows at the sight of an object that brings back the good times you two have spent. Or any thing that may remind you of your partner. It is also an acceptance but this time, just the acceptance that the relationship is over but you still keep the feelings for your ex.
Let us apply a little bit of motion here;
Moving on is moving from one place to another. It is a step or steps away from where you were. Definitely a step better.
Letting go then is like throwing things away from you but you are still where you are at the time of the release. No movement. Stagnant.
Does that make sense???
Now... When do you say that you have moved on? Or let go? Where do you think you are right now?
Let me share a quote about moving on. "Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward."
To end this post, I will share to you a secret. My deepest secret. I have let go.... but sadly I have not moved on...
