can u ever recover a lost trust? i've been thinking for the answer to this question since i had been having relatinship. one after the other, i've been dealing with this issue and it seems that the more that i try to delve on this matter, the more im freaking out. its just doleful that even if i have loved a guy so fully i cannot give him my 100% trust. there's just a simple hunch inside my heart that this guy im going out with is not taking me seriously and in just a flick of my finger i know that i will lose him.pitty me.. i see nothing good with any guys i go out with , but i struggle to pursue with a relationship with them!!! stupid!!! im taking a chance on every relationship that i have but i dont seem to end up with someone who can take me as i am. much effort and feelings has already been invested but they seem not to care at all... they dont see the little things you do to make things work out for both of you. they dont see that even if you know that there's something missing in your relationship you are still trying to make up for those shortcomings.that even if you feel that you are not treated specially you still try to remove those thoughts and deal with the pains and the hurts on your own.
there are times that when you are already trying to look for facts,asking him questions that would really verify on what status you are in,that you know his answers would actually reveal how he wanted you and need you in his life,that if you want to ask him straightforwadly about his true feelings for you, you are being disheartened by the fact that he will the tell the answers you really dont want to hear...
so ny this time, what would you do if you are in my shoes?
help me pls...
Sunday, July 31, 2005
Thursday, July 21, 2005
if love's not there
i recently committed my self to a guy i have barelyn known.it was more like a dare, i think... since he just asked if he could be my boyfriend. and so we pursued with this so-called relationship.i thought we could give it a shot,there's nothing wrong with that,right?the best part with this relationship i have right now is that im not hiding anything from him,unlike before that i cannot tell who i really am.he said he has accepted me and my past.good thing!!!and so life went on...we pretended to be like we have the best relationship on earth.thats how i treated this relationship.and i must admit that i was really happy with him in my life.
later on,i felt that i already like this guy.and one day i was moved to say those three words...only to find out that he doesnt feel the same way!"ayoko sabihin yun na di ko nararamdaman e"I WAS DUMBFOUNDED!!but to add to that, he said that i am really special in his life right now.thats all...
now tell me,how could this one-sided love affair work?it seems that i am the one who's actually courting him and waiting for his love... DUH! i dont wanna wait in vain for your love!!!
well,i think the only thing that i could do for now is to enjoy the "relationship".nothing more nothing less. its better to have him than no one right?
but god!let him feel the same way...
later on,i felt that i already like this guy.and one day i was moved to say those three words...only to find out that he doesnt feel the same way!"ayoko sabihin yun na di ko nararamdaman e"I WAS DUMBFOUNDED!!but to add to that, he said that i am really special in his life right now.thats all...
now tell me,how could this one-sided love affair work?it seems that i am the one who's actually courting him and waiting for his love... DUH! i dont wanna wait in vain for your love!!!
well,i think the only thing that i could do for now is to enjoy the "relationship".nothing more nothing less. its better to have him than no one right?
but god!let him feel the same way...
Wednesday, July 13, 2005
sex and the city
Paki-digest...this is very good.
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1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a
man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you
from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a
relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man
was not treating you as you deserve then heck no
you
can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a
friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your
relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid.
God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the
relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is
unstable. Do you really want to be with a man
like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later
for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their
business and aren't involved in a
whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps
you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children
by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry
them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs
before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness
first.
21. Always have your own set of friends
separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats
you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that
interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung
along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".
Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure
things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will
treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in
his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's
emotional and mental abuse. If he causes
any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.
Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is
not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more
important than you are...even if he has more
education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is
a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he
can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be
aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.
Confront him right away and if you feel he's
lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments,
look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you,
doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't
mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it
right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number
one person in the life of the #1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of
trying to make someone unavailable-available,
someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-
loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you
ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love
anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken
heart.
51. You need time to heal between
relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage...deal with your issues before
pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to
COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of
two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out
to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than
you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe
the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two
people. One person can end it - but it takes
two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving
type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in
this world
(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a
man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he
takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with
his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with
you, You cant force a man to hang out with
you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be
with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will
use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't
depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy
and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good
men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't
give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know
others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational
attainment, values, beliefs, personal and
career goals, and socioeconomic status, are
important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored
contacts.
----------------------------------------------------------
------------------
1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
2. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior.
3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a
man's character, leave him alone.
4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you
from heartache.
5. Stop trying to change yourself for a
relationship that's not meant to be.
6. Don't force an attraction.
7. Slower is better.
8. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy.
9. If a relationship ends because the man
was not treating you as you deserve then heck no
you
can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a
friend.
10. Have faith in God regarding your
relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid.
God does things decent and in order.
11. Don't settle.
12. If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is.
13. If he keeps changing his mind about the
relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is
unstable. Do you really want to be with a man
like that?
14. Don't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later
for staying when things are not better.
15. Honorable men take care of their
business and aren't involved in a
whole lot of mess.
16. The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.
17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps
you; he doesn't want you.
18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children
by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry
them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?
19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs
before finding the prince.
20. Always put yourself and your happiness
first.
21. Always have your own set of friends
separate from his.
22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats
you. If something bothers you, speak up.
23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that
interested.
24. Be honest and upfront.
25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung
along.
26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".
Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure
things out (but don't wait for him, move on).
27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will
treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in
his family (not just mom).
28. There's more than physical abuse, there's
emotional and mental abuse. If he causes
any of them...flee.
29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.
Change comes from within.
30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is
not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.
31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more
important than you are...even if he has more
education or in a better job.
32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is
a man, nothing more nothing less.
33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he
can't have you!
34. Don't compete with other woman, but be
aware that men are attracted to what they see.
35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.
Confront him right away and if you feel he's
lying, let him go.
36. Actions speak louder than words.
37. Never let a man define who you are.
38. Never rely on a man for compliments,
look to yourself for that.
39. Never borrow someone else's man.
40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
41. Just because he says he loves you,
doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't
mean that you are meant to be with him.
42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it
right' the next time.
43. Know that you deserve to be the number
one person in the life of the #1person in your life.
44. Love is a verb ...
45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of
trying to make someone unavailable-available,
someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-
loving.
46. A man will only treat you the way you
ALLOW him to treat you.
47. All men are NOT dogs.
48. You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is a two way street.
49. If you don't love self...you can't love
anyone else.
50. You cannot mend someone else's broken
heart.
51. You need time to heal between
relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage...deal with your issues before
pursuing a new relationship.
52. You should never look for someone to
COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of
two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complementary...not supplementary.
53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out
to be Mr. Right.
54. NEVER give more in a relationship than
you are getting out of it.
55. Never become your man's "therapist".
56. When actions and words conflict, believe
the actions. Respond to the actions.
57. A real healthy relationship requires two
people. One person can end it - but it takes
two to make it work.
58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving
type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in
this world
(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a
man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he
takes it for granted.
60. Give him his space...let him go out with
his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with
you, You cant force a man to hang out with
you.
61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be
with him you shouldn't.
62. Never let a man know everything. He will
use it against you later.
63. Never move into his mother's house.
64. Provide financially for yourself and don't
depend on anyone.
65. Never co-sign for a man.
66. Never believe you have the perfect guy
and he is so innocent.
67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.
68. Never let a man mess up your credit.
69. When it's time to let go; let go.
70. Good men should be treated like good
men.
71. Don't play games.
72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't
give you everything that you need.
73. Keep him in your radar but get to know
others.
74. Compatibility in terms of educational
attainment, values, beliefs, personal and
career goals, and socioeconomic status, are
important.
75. Never date a guy who wears colored
contacts.
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