sex and the city

Paki-digest...this is very good.

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1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

2. Stop making excuses for a man and his
behavior.

3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a
man's character, leave him alone.

4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you
from heartache.

5. Stop trying to change yourself for a
relationship that's not meant to be.

6. Don't force an attraction.

7. Slower is better.

8. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy.

9. If a relationship ends because the man
was not treating you as you deserve then heck no
you
can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a
friend.

10. Have faith in God regarding your
relationship, but don't let faith make you stupid.
God does things decent and in order.

11. Don't settle.

12. If you feel like he is stringing you along,
then he probably is.

13. If he keeps changing his mind about the
relationship--take that as a BIG sign that he is
unstable. Do you really want to be with a man
like that?

14. Don't stay because you think "it will get
better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later
for staying when things are not better.

15. Honorable men take care of their
business and aren't involved in a
whole lot of mess.

16. The only person you can control in a
relationship is you.

17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps
you; he doesn't want you.

18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children
by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry
them when he got them pregnant, why would he
treat you any differently?

19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs
before finding the prince.

20. Always put yourself and your happiness
first.

21. Always have your own set of friends
separate from his.

22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats
you. If something bothers you, speak up.

23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that
interested.

24. Be honest and upfront.

25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung
along.

26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role".
Remove yourself from the situation to let him figure
things out (but don't wait for him, move on).

27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will
treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in
his family (not just mom).

28. There's more than physical abuse, there's
emotional and mental abuse. If he causes
any of them...flee.

29. You cannot change a man's behaviors.
Change comes from within.

30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is
not willing to follow himself -- double-standard.

31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more
important than you are...even if he has more
education or in a better job.

32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is
a man, nothing more nothing less.

33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he
can't have you!

34. Don't compete with other woman, but be
aware that men are attracted to what they see.

35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is.
Confront him right away and if you feel he's
lying, let him go.

36. Actions speak louder than words.

37. Never let a man define who you are.

38. Never rely on a man for compliments,
look to yourself for that.

39. Never borrow someone else's man.

40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.

41. Just because he says he loves you,
doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't
mean that you are meant to be with him.

42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it
right' the next time.

43. Know that you deserve to be the number
one person in the life of the #1person in your life.

44. Love is a verb ...

45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of
trying to make someone unavailable-available,
someone ungiving-giving, and someone unloving-
loving.

46. A man will only treat you the way you
ALLOW him to treat you.

47. All men are NOT dogs.

48. You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is a two way street.

49. If you don't love self...you can't love
anyone else.

50. You cannot mend someone else's broken
heart.

51. You need time to heal between
relationships...there is nothing cute about
baggage...deal with your issues before
pursuing a new relationship.

52. You should never look for someone to
COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of
two WHOLE individuals...look for someone
complementary...not supplementary.

53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out
to be Mr. Right.

54. NEVER give more in a relationship than
you are getting out of it.

55. Never become your man's "therapist".

56. When actions and words conflict, believe
the actions. Respond to the actions.

57. A real healthy relationship requires two
people. One person can end it - but it takes
two to make it work.

58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving
type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in
this world
(within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.

59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a
man always know where you are,
and you're always readily available to him he
takes it for granted.

60. Give him his space...let him go out with
his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with
you, You cant force a man to hang out with
you.

61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be
with him you shouldn't.

62. Never let a man know everything. He will
use it against you later.

63. Never move into his mother's house.

64. Provide financially for yourself and don't
depend on anyone.

65. Never co-sign for a man.

66. Never believe you have the perfect guy
and he is so innocent.

67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you.

68. Never let a man mess up your credit.

69. When it's time to let go; let go.

70. Good men should be treated like good
men.

71. Don't play games.

72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't
give you everything that you need.

73. Keep him in your radar but get to know
others.

74. Compatibility in terms of educational
attainment, values, beliefs, personal and
career goals, and socioeconomic status, are
important.

75. Never date a guy who wears colored
contacts.