Make Believe

Consciously or not, we may have been into a situation where in we assume more than what reality offers. We may have done it for some reasons; make ourselves happy, content or just merely helping ourselves out with anything that goes along. We may have done it intentionally or unintentionally and at times, it ends up chaotic because assumptions and premeditated conclusions has never been a healthy factor in making any relationship work.

Make believes are just mere assumptions. It is where one of the two has taken the relationship more seriously than the other. Or it may have been where a person thinks that they have this special attention or relationship. Moreover, one of the people involved in this thing may have just been a victim of this serious deceit.

Let me share some make believe stories that I have heard from friends:

Situation 1:
Have been an active poster in one of the forums based here in the phils. I met Ms. Witty who has been very accommodating and friendly. She introduced me to Mr. Traveler, a Filipino who is based somewhere in Asia. The two became my friends. Ms. Witty has shared a lot of things to me. I became her confidante which I am very flattered about. Not long after a few exchange of conversations, she mentioned that she had a huge crush on Mr. Traveler. This I could not deny because he is really full of life. Next thing I know was that she has been doing all the necessary attempts to get close to him. From exchange of SMS, international calls, gifts, and even visiting the country where Mr. Traveler is!!! Isn’t that such a great effort?!!! Now why would u think the girl would be exerting such an effort? It’s simply because she was under the impression that they have a mutual understanding or a special relationship. Being a friend to both, I am happy with the fact they might have really liked each other. But the day came when I had the chance to talk to Mr. Traveler and being the nosey person that I was, I tried to get some confirmation regarding the status of their relationship. That was when he got surprised that Ms. Witty has been maliciously spreading the news that they are a “thing”. As a woman, I tried not to believe it at first because I would like to believe that Ms. Witty has all the necessary evidence to prove what she had been claiming. However, conversation with Mr. Traveler has been a straight NO. Confused as I was, I didn’t try to debate on what was going on with them or not but this is really a MAKE BELIEVE. Apparently, on the girl’s part.

Situation 2:
A friend of mine is the no. 2. They guy is still living with his wife and superficially doing well as a married couple. The relationship with no.2 has been a secret for more than 2 years and they seemed to be so happy with their status. The girl was even boasting that they guy would be readily leaving the wife once the relationship has been revealed. This promise might have been the only reason why no.2 stocked to the relationship. The guy has even been claiming that she had more time with no.2 rather than with the wife. This might have given no.2 the assurance that she is the one that the guy really needs in his life. But like any other dark secrets, it was revealed on the time that no one had expected. As soon as the wife learned about the infidelity, the two has been out of contact. No.2 was bombarded with all the words that an angry wife could give. And without any word of goodbye or any thing that will suffice the hurtful words that she had received from the wife, the guy took off. Sadly, no words of comfort nor assurance of what the future would hold for them had been heard from the guy. So indifferent. And this I would say is another MAKE BELIEVE. Again, on the girl’s part.

Situation 3:
True as it seems, there are relationships that would really have to end. Whether it’s because of lost of love, recurring misunderstandings or complete lost of trust. But how would you believe that it was love after all when the relationship ended in just a flick of a finger. It may be hard to comprehend that it was indeed love that made these two people fall for each other and become the reason for them to be together for quite some time.

I would say that there had been some manifestations that they were in love but would you believe it was love when the other didn’t try hard enough to fight for the relationship?

I have seen a few friends with whom, despite the shortcomings from either of them or both; that despite some issues with trust and even some hurdles on the relationship, both has tried their best to save the love…BECAUSE THERE IS LOVE.

Now the prominent question is raised, do you think there was love when the other didn’t attempt to save the relationship? That despite of the effort to save the relationship by the other partner, it was futile and had not proven anything.

This may seem to be another MAKE BELIEVE…. Make believe that it was love. Make believe that they had been a couple. And make believe that he really has good intentions for you.

Make believes are very treacherous. And would cause not only an emotional trauma but also psychological trauma to the people involved. In this case, the victim would be on the verge of losing his or her self confidence and question the reality if he or she is still a good piece or a good piece of junk. Most importantly, if that person would be able to redeem his or her self after the hurtful experience.

Making someone believe of what is not is complete deceit. Hopefully, none of you has experienced any of this.

To end this, let me share a line from the movie Hancock , “Fate doesn’t decide on everything. People get to choose”.